How do you lose weight as an adult ?


The traumas endured by overweight or obese children dramatically scar their adolescence, and continue to be present in adulthood. The standards of society allow any adult to reproduce, but for people who are overweight or obese, finding a mate is a challenge, an almost impossible wager. Career-wise, being overweight or obese can keep them from getting the job they want or may even cause them to lose their job. At a social level, the discomfort of being overweight or obese may be a huge obstacle to their mobility, which causes them to restrict social activities, leading to withdrawal and isolation.


There are thousands of questions going through an overweight or obese adult’s mind in today’s society: Can I find someone who finds me desirable the way I am? And if I do manage to find them, will I feel trapped in an inferior position? Who could possibly want to get in bed with me or hold my hand in the street, have dinner with me at a fancy restaurant or introduce me to their friends? Who could be proud of me, the way I am?

If these questions don’t arise when they’re already in a relationship, other problems can appear. Within any relationship, there is a structure: certain patterns and habits are established; daily tasks and decision-making responsibilities are distributed. The overweight or obese adult will tend to compensate for what they feel is a burden on their partner by doing whatever the latter wishes, without complaint. Their self-confidence will be damaged as a result. The image they have of themselves will be redefined by the new image as forming part of a couple. The reality is that our partners are not responsible of our vision of ourselves and sometimes hold us in more esteem than we do ourselves.


Obese candidates are, on average, 2 times less likely to land a job interview. For a position in sales, the odds of the obese person getting a positive response drop even further, to 3 times less… and 24% fewer for a position in telemarketing! Laws have been enacted against discrimination because not all recruiters are morally aware and may choose candidates based on a photo and an assumed weight. However, physical appearance is considered a discriminatory selection criterion in the same way as ethnicity, gender, or religious affiliation. Whether the position is in sales or in telemarketing, physical discrimination is just as illegal.

Job discrimination suffered for reasons of obesity particularly affects already disadvantaged social classes. In Western nations such as France, the connections between the two are well known. Consequently, job discrimination at the moment of recruitment is more likely to affect candidates who already have problems finding employment because of their gender, ethnic origin, skin color, having grown up in a disadvantaged neighborhood, or lack of education. However, for many businesses in areas such as communication, being overweight is a major obstacle to being hired, before other factors such as background, living standards, education level, cultural background, social and intellectual qualities, qualifications, or relevant experience are even considered. Unfortunately, image is crucial in this day and age and we prefer to match certain types of people to certain positions based on their appearance, as opposed to hiring qualified people lacking in the desired physical attributes. Those who are overweight or obese might find administrative or other positions where they rarely come in contact with the public more easily because the business feels its image won’t be altered due to an employee’s appearance.


Whether the overweight or obese person integrates or not into a circle of friends depends on their attitude. Those who already have a circle of friends won’t suffer the isolation of the ones who don’t. People with serious weight problems find it almost unimaginable to spontaneously go towards a group of people and integrate themselves socially and it’s just as unlikely that the group will approach them. Thus, they withdraw from others in an attempt to avoid rejection and scoffing looks. They will avoid groups, parties, social activities, outings, and other people in an attempt to avert suffering. The social isolation of the overweight person is practically inevitable, whatever their family situation. How many married women refuse to accompany their husband to family events for fear of being judged? How many men refuse to accompany their family on walks in the woods or to sporting events for fear of not being able to blend in?


Once we reach adulthood, we try everything to lose weight and nothing seems to work, so we give up or lose all hope. We lose confidence in our power to change, in our power, period. When we are obese or overweight, we harbor such feelings of sadness and guilt that we develop a profound hate for ourselves. When we’re plagued with these negative emotions, it’s difficult if not impossible to get over them and to lose the weight on our own. This is where the support of a good coach can be crucial.

I, myself, went through all of the stages of obesity and I managed to overcome it. This is why I can reach out to someone who is living the same situation. I spent more than 20 years asking myself questions and searching for a way to help myself without the process being overly demanding or having to endure much suffering during the course of transformation.

I finally found the necessary ingredients to build this program and for the last twelve years I’ve been helping others get their weight under control. What gives me the most pleasure is rescuing someone from this painful situation, setting them back on the right path and handing them back the reins to their own life. The Smart and Light program was conceived with this goal in mind. Our behavioral, culinary and physical guidance sessions are intended help you regain control while teaching you to see life from a different angle. It’s through pleasure, and not constraint, that you will find your bearings again for a better, much happier life.


Let’s not forget that when we reach adulthood, we are already parents, or at least in the process of becoming so. We must be role models for our children in every way. Our first responsibility as parents is to teach them to eat well and to live in a healthy manner.  Animals in the wild do this; the parents’ teach their offspring how to feed and fend for themselves in their natural habitat, in order that their little ones may survive and, in turn, rear their own families.

Eating healthily is a duty for us and for our children because if they don’t learn how to do this at home, they certainly won’t learn it at school or in the cafeteria, unfortunately. If we don’t set a good example, our children will be the first victims of our negligence. What we do for ourselves, we do for our own family, it’s important to think about this and understand all its implications.